Today I want to address the importance of creating and maintaining healthy friendships and relationships people that you surround yourself with in life.
This is absolutely critical. If we are not surrounding ourselves with positive, like-minded people who add to and enrich our lives, who support us and our goals, then we can fall into a regressive state and have our minds severely compromised. This can happen simply by being around the wrong people.
I’m sure all of us have had those friends or people in our lives that require a lot of energy, support or are just plain pessimistic or negative to a point where spending time with them does not uplift or inspire at all.
It’s actually the opposite; it can be very detrimental. Whether this is an old high-school friend, a family friend or even a family member, it’s really important we identify those people around us that are having a negative impact on us.
We need to take action to help them improve their mindset and approach while recognizing and knowing that it’s not easy to adjust. And if someone doesn’t want to change, it’s not our obligation, nor are we responsible for it.
What we are responsible for is keeping ourselves and our family safe and healthy.
As hard as that is, sometimes it requires us to remove certain people from our lives, or at least limit the amount of time and influence they have on our lives.
What we really need to do is double down and spend more time investing in growing our relationships with those people who really contribute to and enrich our lives. We need to make sure they know how much they are appreciated.
We need to spend more time building our bonds and our relationships with people that build us up, support and encourage us—people with good character and constitution that we can benefit from being around and who can benefit from us.
Try to be more mindful of the people we have in our lives, who we deliberately choose to be around. We have the freedom to choose those we spend time with, for how long and for what reason.
Let’s make a conscious effort to identify relationships and friendships that are having a negative impact on our psyche and our lives, and slowly remove them. We need to take care of ourselves first, to make sure that we are healthy and strong, before we can be at our best to support our family, friends or colleagues.
People with bad attitudes and world views can be detrimental and insidious, and we need to guard against that.
We need to slow down a little bit sometimes, appreciate and take everything in and make sure that we’re giving enough time to relax and enjoy life and the journey that we are all on.
Sometimes time gets sacrificed when you are very ambitious and have a high vision for life. If we don’t commit and spend the time maintaining the relationships with those that we love, care for and respect, then they will suffer and not always necessarily be there.
We do not want to regret this later, and it can happen easily if we don’t pay attention regularly.
Let’s GO!
Power Quote
“Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head… raise the rent and kick them out.” —Robert Tew
Key Insight
What we really need to do is double down and spend more time investing in growing our relationships with those people who really contribute to and enrich our lives. We need to make sure they know how much they are appreciated.
Tactical Tip
Think about the people you have in your life. Which ones make you feel exhausted after a conversation, and which ones build you up? As you interact with people, think about how they affect your life.
Day Check
What did you notice about your relationships today? Who are some people who are positive influences? Which ones are negative?